Friday, October 19, 2007

Being a Mom should not be like high school

I'm writing this post, because one of my favorite bloggers made a good point about snooty Moms excluding other Moms they don't want to help with a Festival. I thought we left cliques behind in High school. I have found that a lot of Mothers base who they are, or where they stand in the hierarchy of school help, by how much they can take on. Thus making themselves look like supermoms. They are like Fem bots.....Stepford Mothers, if you will. They must think that those of us, who choose to help with things for the sake of our CHILDREN, not our status, are just lame mothers. I'm sorry, but I see it as the reverse. I will admit that I am PTO secretary at my daughters school. The only reason I took that on, is that I don't think the school does enough activities to instill school pride, or activities that help families spend time together. In this fast paced, get it done ASAP age, I think those things are lost. Kids are over scheduled and don't have time for fun. And that's just during the school day! Not to mention, if they like to play a sport, that's additional time. And I say LIKE to play a sport, not be forced to play, because it makes their Mother looks good. " Oh, So and so has piano on Monday, and soccer on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday, and swimming on Wednesday, and blah, blah, blah." Do you know what I would LOVE to say someday to one of those Mothers? "Honey, you're not complaining, you're bragging. Do you really think you're creating this well rounded child, or someone who resents you for not allowing them any free time? Come talk to me when they hit the teenage years, and let me know what rehab center they're in, so I can send you an I told-you-so card. Once they can't handle the pressure anymore and resort to some drug that will keep them going constantly, let me hear you brag about the rehab bills, money they stole from you and how you basically have no idea who your child really is." WOULDN'T THAT FEEL FANTASTIC???? They look on their plastic faces would be so priceless, I would be sure to snap a pic with my phone.
Now on the other end, My daughter is a cheerleader. (I wasn't thrilled, trust me.....I was the volleyball, diving, field hockey type.) Tonight is the Pep Rally/ Homecoming. And at the age of 8, they choose a Princess, to follow the homecoming queen. Don't get wrong, I think my daughter deserves to win it. She goes to practices and games, tries her hardest, and doesn't complain. But truthfully, I am praying that she doesn't get it. First off, their coach asked them to vote. At the age of 8, a name should have been pulled from a hat. They don't know who they're voting for!! They're just picking any name they know. I don't want her to win, because I think it promotes that "Popularity" contest. Also, her very best friend is on the squad and I do not want some silly princess title to come between their friendship. And you know damn well it will. Vice Verse if her friend wins. I have told her she should be happy and proud of her friend, but I know, she'll be crushed. No matter how many times she tells me she won't give her friend an attitude, I know she will. Unfortunately, another Mother overheard a coach last night and she seems to think my daughter has won it. I am dreading this evening.....
That's my vent for the day....I'll post what happens tomorrow.
P.s. It's cranberry season! Time to bake! Think cranberries and pears, port, Stilton cheese.....mmmm. I may have to post a recipe.......

2 comments:

someGirl said...

oh awesome rant, my dear!! Fem Bots, LOL!!!! Rehab will be The Coolest after school hang out!! That's just sad on so many levels...

I agree with so much of what you said...I volunteer a LOT at her school, but it's always in the classroom and never in fundraising activities. The fundraising/PTA stuff is 'run' by the same ol' Fem Bots/Faux-Supermoms and it's all about social hierarchy/popularity contest. No thanks to that game.
oh awesome rant, my dear!! Fem Bots, LOL!!!! On the money with that one!!

chefmom said...

Thanks! We eliminated the Fem Bots of last years PTO and are now a new group of Moms that feel this should be about the KIDS, not the status. I really didn't want to get involved, but they were spending school money on STUPID things to make THEM look better. I'm with you though...I don't touch anything that has to do with fundraising. And this year we decided, no money for events, only boxtops (don't know if your school does that), so that the school benefits from our activities. I have to say, I loved to out vote the Fem bots though...such a great feeling....We shall overcome the Fem Bot society!! lol!!